Sex Karna Mana Hai

We Indians make babies by magic. We don’t have s-e-x(please whisper this word if you’re reading it out loud). S-e-x, you see, is a Western concept. Those dirty Westerners kiss and canoodle in public. That is because they have no culture.

We in India have plenty of culture. Our ancestors were composing the Vedas when people in the West were still swinging from tree to tree. We have the Ganga and the Yamuna and we have Yoga and our many Gods and Goddesses. But no s-e-x. That is a Western import, brought to our holy land by those Godless Westerners.

Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are not my own. You, discerning reader, might recognize them for what they are: the mindless and illogical arguments of our politicians and general rabble-rousers(not the first sentence; that’s my own :-D). I love my country, so I can’t help but despair over the fact that we’re saddled with a bunch of quarrelling and reactionary politicians who have the gall to call themselves ‘public servants’ when they serve nothing but their own interests. Phew! Long sentence, that.

Come on! What is wrong with teaching kids about sex and sexuality? Curiosity is part of being human and these kids will get curious about it at some stage. So might as well satiate that now, than leave them prey to all sorts of nonsensical information (You know what I’m talking about! Kissing can get a woman pregnant??) As Bachi Karkaria has already pointed out, a look at the sexpert columns will confirm that most Indians, children and adults, need sex education. Sometimes, when I read the mindnumbing queries, I don’t know whether to laugh or to cry.

And leave aside the need to know about the sexual act itself. There’s a very real need to educate children about sexual predators, the difference between a ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’. If we don’t arm them with this knowledge, we leave them vulnerable to exploitation. Nithari is not an aberration. Sexual abuse is common in our country and that’s a fact. Perverts cannot be eliminated from any society, but it’s the least we can do to educate our children and make them less vulnerable.

P.S. I do know that India is the land of the Kamasutra and erotic temple sculputre, blah, blah. I just didn’t mention all that before, because it seems so besides the point. But you’re welcome to talk about it, if you want.


10 thoughts on “Sex Karna Mana Hai

  1. Well, then that just makes us a bunch of hypocrites, doesn’ it? All hush hush talk about sex. People gasp or giggle at the mention of the word…but not talking about it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Sharing knowledge always helps. Providing knowledge about sex and that too through proper channels would definitely instill correct mentality in the minds of the coming younger generations.

  2. kamasutra is india’s claim to international fame. and not to forget khajjuraho. so i find no justification to this behaviour…therefore, all i can do is to switch to the accusation mode…we are the worst kind of snobs and set higher and higher standards of double standard. and that explains why indians are a different race altogether.

  3. Tell me about it! I wonder why the word is so taboo in the Indian society.

    It’s the old Eve-Apple case.. banning sex-education is only going to increase the kid’s curiosity. Isn’t it a lot simpler for a teacher or a responsible adult to describe how ‘Tab A’ gets inserted into ‘Slot B’, before the ‘bundle of joy’ pops out, than to keep the whole thing under the covers? That was a rhetoric, btw. The education in responsibility is what counts.

    It’s the attitude that sucks. Either way, it doesn’t matter. Except for the goody-goodies, most kids know more about the subject before they formally learn it anyway.

  4. @ Madhura

    The gasping and the giggling is the worst! It just makes sex seem like such a dirty act and it only ends up inducing the guilt complex.

    @ Koro

    We seriously have such double standards. It’s a wonder we can look ourselves in the face. I walk down a road and I see all these men ogling and I know what they’re thinking. And these men are the first to protest against some imagined obscenity on TV or in real life.

    @ Aswin

    As a matter of fact, it’s not just education in responsibilty. People actually don’t know much about the act itself, which is shocking. Just read a sexpert column to know what I mean.

  5. I remember when i was in school the idea of a lecture for sex education had been introduced…which barely lasted six 10 months or so because of the response it got.

    There was a time wen our teacher uttered the word ‘sexual intercourse’, and all the students started covering under their respective benches as if the teacher was activating a nuclear warhead!!!

    And its the poor attitude towards homosexuality that disgusts me sometimes…people think gay people are a bunch of freaks who dont get what they want. And that kind of an attitude plainly explains how our country is doin with ‘sex education’!

  6. Glad you mentioned the sex manuals and sex sculptures which are religious sculptures by the way.

    Sex, a natural impulse, in everyone should be handled with education.

    I like Bollywood Films but I must say while there is no sex, there’s plenty of sexuality, passion, flirting, acting act physically all the modes and techniques of sex.


  7. yup! The suggestiveness is all there. Which makes people’s squeamishness about sex all the more incomprehensible!

  8. I agree with the part about sex education being an absolute must for the kids of this country. They need to know.

    But having said that, I think its equally important for it to be done the right way. It shouldn’t( as someone mentioned earlier)be just another chapter in biology but it also has to be an insight into the moral and ethical implications of the act.

    There’s no reason to be excessively secretive about it but there’s no reason to publicise it either. It’s a private affair that should very well remain that.

    Infact, I’d like to see each of the people in this column to talk to your mum and dad about your sex lives and try n feel utterly comfy with the idea. I bet you won’t. That’s coz we are different. Sure we can have those father-son, mother-daughter Hollywood fashion talks, but do we really want to?

    As far as the West is concerned, I say its a sex obssessed world (call it what you like but you ll realise it all comes down to that). Sex is the major topic of conversation there. And everyone’s ready to talk about it. The sex education courses they take right through school and college only helps them experiment sooner. They identify the ‘good touch’ and the ‘bad touch’ and indulge in it all the same. If we have the second highest rates of HIV, they rate the highest among unwed child mothers.

    So I ask you this. I really do think sex education is important for children but do you really want us to get ‘liberated’ and turn into them?

  9. I don’t think anyone said that we should turn into the ‘west'(though I don’t see why it should always be ‘decadent west’. They have some good things going for them too.) The point is, the Indian stand against sex education is hypocritical. And I’m glad you agree with me on that.

    And if you’ve had conversations here in India, you’ll know that sex is a major topic of conversation here too. It’s a global obsession.

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